The 2nd post on this blog, on May 6, 2015, based on question from a reader of “Orgasms: 101 Facts & Trivia” was about HOW men can fake orgasms.
Saw this on a fridge magnet on eBay.
It says, quite insightfully:
“Women fake orgasms to have relationships,
men fake relationships to have orgasms”
I think most of us, even men, can relate to that, even if we have to grimace doing so.
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eBay even had a mug with the same message
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This quote featuring so much ‘friction’ confused me. I am a great fan of friction BUT as such it has always confused and confounded me as to the TONS of people who actually crave LOW-FRICTION sex — a.k.a. ‘Oral Sex’? Think about it.
Given that the #6 item talked about in “Orgasms: 101 Facts & Trivia” (by Anura Guruge) has to do with men, even relatively young ones, faking orgasms I was asked by a female as to how a man can fake an orgasm. I immediately knew where she was coming from. Her implication was that women can fake orgasms (and females faking orgasms are talked about, at a minimum, in #79 and #83 in the book) because there is not meant to be any visible outcome associated with a female orgasm whereas men are supposed to ejaculate when they orgasm. [However, though they invariably go hand-in-hand, a male orgasm and ejaculation, as talked about in #48 in the book, are two distinct events.]
At this juncture you could ask, validly, what about the women who squirt? [#34 in the book.] Aren’t they able to fake an orgasm if they so wished?
Basically the same premise that would apply to women who squirt who wish to fake an orgasm would apply to men.
A man’s orgasm does not always have to be accompanied by a noticeable ejaculate.
Plus, it is not always the case, especially with vaginal intercourse, that a woman detects her male partner’s penile contractions and ejaculations. Yes, females do indeed ask men: “did you come?” There is also the matter of the amount of lubrication that might be involved down there. In some cases there is enough liquid in play that it all gets kind of lost in the wash.
Men can have dry orgasms — and that is essentially how they can get away with faking an orgasm. Simple as that.
How much a man will ejaculate, on a given occasion, is highly variable. #20 in the book talks about it. Age, health, and most of all the duration between orgasms, will influence the outcome. A man having his 5th orgasm in a day will typically ‘come’ less that he did when he had his first of the day. So it might not be unusual for a man, into having multiple orgasms a day with his partner, to come less as the day progresses. And if you think about it ‘delayed orgasm’, the main reason why men fake, is usually likely to kick in, especially with younger men, when they have already come a few times during the day. So not being copious might not be that incongruous.
I think you get the picture. Yes, it is easier to fake if you are having vaginal intercourse — say as opposed to oral.
But, the bottom line is that a man can come without always having a ‘noticeable’ ejaculate. As such a man can fake an orgasm.